Is Marriage Doomed - Married Man’s Take …

 Branding Tools of Marriage Well just celebrated 6 years of marriage recently, but it seems that I am defending marriage both left right and center these days. Everybody seems to be focused on the "bad" and "doom" side of marriage so that every1 seems to be scared of it, and pledging doom yet secretly wanting to "jump the broom" or "walk around the aisle".    Just a note from positioning concepts, is that marriage is a rite of passage which comes with pleasure, but a host of responsibility. While it has been placed as a cure all for relationships, deeply romatisized from movies like Sleepless in Seattle, the relaity is shown in others like Jerry Maguire, Changing Lanes, War of the Roses (threw that one in for good measure).    Why do more and more "marriages" and relationships seem to be failing these days. Here is my take:   1. It is a acceptable to fail in marriage nowadays, and divorce is normal so well, if you have a few issues, its okay to escalate them to irreversible and demand dissolution of the union. Our role models such as political leaders, business people, etc do it all the time and its okay. TV and Hollywood are not helping any better.    2. The African society is disintegrating and all the support systems we have had over the years are falling apart so people are getting married without any support from older and wiser people, I got this support and it changed my outlook to life.   3. Life is so much harder - we work longer hours, get paid less, have worse diets, nowhere to unwind, have more stress so marriage and relationships suffer as a result.   4. Sex is becoming easier to get - friends with benefits, more single parents, more people willing to go through life without steady partners, etc....   5. Marriage and love are shows - Bachelor, Bachelorette, Bachelor pad who faills in love in 6-8 weeks for a TV show, so we all assume that everything is easy    6. (Kate Rop) Women now have to work to help support the family, therefore the toll of this in addition to their home building activities leaves less time for couple time since they are tired too.   7. (Kate Rop) Lack of Paitence on the men's part with society upporting them - Socitey blames women for men's decisions to look elsewhere for what they might get at home, even when they do so without considering their partners additional responsibilities (#6) above.    8. (Christina Atuhairwe) - Couples jump into it cos *they feel like it* or *its a natural conclusion* os *it happened by accident* and marry for the reasons they give each other... Marriage is a consciously thought out choice, and like u take on a job be ready to work at it.   9. (Christina Atuhairwe) - parents who over "love" their kids and do not teach their kids that they have to be responsible for their actions and decisions.    I will be adding to the list as I get your comments....